A Red Flag is Not Wanting to Kiss on a First Date

While most dating advice blogs and social posts seem to say that a slight majority of men want to have a kiss on the first date, but the predisposition may be more of the issue. Overwhelming, the elite men who responded to us, via a couple matchmakers, told another story. They felt it a red flag is not wanting a kiss on a first date.

So, what we’re talking about here is how a woman feels about it. As we found out, at least half the women feel that it’s ok if there is attraction and it was a longer first date.

But when a woman prior to a first date says in conversation, they are most likely not going to kiss on a first date, that is seen as a red flag. It sounds like not going with the flow or just seeing how things may turn out.

It seems that higher net worth men feel that is a reason to not have a second date, but if known up front, skip a first date.

We dug deeper and found it wasn’t about being impatient or wanting to rush things, it was more about not having an open mind. No one knows how a first date may go but to say this won’t happen, feels like a control thing. No one is saying under any circumstances that sex is the right thing on a first date but a kiss, not such a big deal.

No Judgement here. People need to do what they’re comfortable with. But if a guy who has his shit together, says it, ladies may want to at least listen and consider it. Especially since great worthwhile men seeking a long-term monogamous relationship are few and far between.

What we found was that men who really valued their time, that is why they went to a matchmaker in the first place, didn’t want to waste it on a woman who maybe almost came off narcissistic about kissing.

And ladies again, we’re not talking about the take things slow, friends first, blah blah.

Guys, it’s probably not a bad idea to ask a woman prior to a first date how she feels about kissing. If she says no and hasn’t even met, you may be dodging a bullet as who knows what else she may have a negative predisposition to beyond even dating.

The good news is that with half the women being ok with it, sometimes a little upfront conversation can avoid a bad first date.